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A personal pep talk for when you’re doubting yourself

pep talkThere are times I’m working on a piece of writing and I keep thinking, “Ugh, this is not very good.”

I keep working on it, but can’t seem to ignore the self-doubts that come into my brain. “This is bad. It’s not coming together. People will think this is poorly written and that I’m a bad writer.”

Turns out I’m not the only one who thinks that way.

A friend recently confided that she was down about a project she was working on. She had been at it for a while and felt like it was turning into a failure. I was sorry to hear this, because I know how smart and talented she is. I didn’t want her to feel bad about herself.

I found myself giving her the same pep-talk I give myself when I’m riddled with self doubt.

So, here are my tactics to respond to negative self talk, specifically in regards to work: [Read more…]

2015-16 Gift Guide for Highly Sensitive People & Introverts

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Are you struggling to find a gift for an introverted, highly sensitive friend, spouse, co-worker, or family member? Then this list is for you. Featured here are presents for people who are overwhelmed by social and environment stimuli, are empathic, sensitive to beauty, and cherish privacy and peacefulness.

Presenting: the Highly Sensitive Person & Introvert Gift Guide for 2015-16!

(Note: Introverts and HSPs are not the same thing. All introverts are not HSPs, and vice versa. But just for the sake of this list, we have lumped them together.)

Here we go!

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How to deal with overwhelming parties & gatherings

5 re (2)Recently, I traveled to the other side of the country to visit family and friends. While there, I found myself at a big family party. It’s been so long since I’d been in that situation! It reminded me how hours-long parties can wear on me, no matter how much I like those in attendance.

At big family parties, there may be loud people, music, dancing, cooking, singing, and talking, of course. And people might drink a bit too much and act a little wild and unpredictable.

Here are my tips on how to deal with long parties. These tips are mainly for when you feel tapped out on the small talk and overwhelmed by people. And yes, these tips are more geared toward introverts than extroverts.

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HSP and Autism, Asperger’s

This isn’t going to be a fully formed blog post. I just wanted to address this question because it comes up all the time on HSP Facebook groups.

The question is: Is being autistic (or having Asperger’s syndrome) related to being a Highly Sensitive Person?

The answer is no, according to Dr. Elaine Aron.

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One step forward….one step back.

terrible articleJournalists and writers seemingly can’t help themselves.

When they write an article about Highly Sensitive People, they just can’t stop themselves from sticking in pejorative, judgemental language.

Sometimes it’s so minor that it’s hard to perceive, but it’s almost always there.

**warning** This post is a rant. If you do not like to read complaining and sarcasm, I suggest skipping this. Don’t say I didn’t warn you! [Read more…]

Sensory Deprivation: Try a float session!

float tankHave you ever heard of floating? In the therapeutic, spa-sense?

A float session consists of lying naked (or in a swimsuit) in an individual tank of warm water that is super-saturated with Epsom salts. The door of the tank can be closed so you are in complete darkness and silence. It’s sensory deprivation.

No sound, no light, no gravity. You’re floating in blackness. [Read more…]

Taking breaks in group vacations

mexicoA few weeks ago, my husband Jim and I went to Guanajuato, Mexico to meet up with a couple we are friends with. They currently live in Mexico.

I normally would be uncomfortable “vacationing” with other people, but I’m pretty comfortable with these folks.

One afternoon, after we had exhausted all the normal tourist activities, we settled in at an outdoor bar on the main square and commenced drinking. We were having a grand time, just people watching, talking, and laughing. [Read more…]

11 Tips for handling the chaos of kids as an introverted HSP

HSP parentingFor Highly Sensitive People–particularly introverts–the concept of parenting may elicit feelings of anxiety and overwhelm in addition to the standard emotion of joy. There is an extra layer of challenge due to the ease with which HSPs become overstimulated and overwhelmed—a situation that occurs naturally because kids have energy and curiosity.

For introverted HSP parents, having peaceful moments in which to reenergize is as crucial as water and air. I know the ridiculously large amounts of quiet alone time I require, and I wonder how introverted, easily-overstimulated parents can handle it. [Read more…]

Nice people make me cry

SOS (1)I’ve always struggled with getting emotional when people are unexpectedly or extraordinarily nice–when a stranger goes out of their way to do something nice for me or someone else.

It can be embarrassing to tear up when these things happen.

Look, I don’t mean I cry when someone holds open a door for me. It has to be more than that. Here’s a recent example. [Read more…]