It takes me forever to do anything

sproutsI’m not fast. I’m not quick at doing most things.

However, I am deliberate and accurate.

One example of this is cooking. Even if I have one of those “20 minute meal” type recipes, it’s going to take me over an hour. I will wash, peel, slice, chop, and do every single thing with care and precision. [Read more…]

“Freedom” isn’t a Goal

freedom is not a goalI spent the better (worse?) part of nearly ten years working in a cubicle. To put it gently…I didn’t like it.

I wanted to escape from working in a cubicle in an office. I wanted to work for myself, from home (or wherever I wanted). I wanted FREEDOM and AUTONOMY. I thought that would solve all my problems.

I have explored this topic quite thoroughly in other posts and podcast episodes, like these….. [Read more…]

Some jokes aren’t funny

funnygorillaAre there pranks you don’t find funny? Are you offended by jokes that other people aren’t offended by?

It’s frequently debated in pop culture whether certain controversial topics are ok to joke about. Rape, pedophilia, and racial violence are frequently among these cringe-y topics. Is it ok to make jokes about rape? Isn’t comedy about pushing boundaries? How much time must pass after a terrible incident before people can joke about it? It’s all just words, isn’t it?  [Read more…]

The superpower of smell

small_429674813A few years ago, I was standing in my kitchen and I faintly smelled something. Something bad. I said to Jim, “Do you smell that?” He says no.

Now I’m on a mission. “I swear I smell something bad. Where the heck is that coming from?” I mumbled to myself.

If you are anything like me, you know what came next. I searched every single corner of the kitchen looking for this smell. [Read more…]

High Sensitivity vs. Sensory Processing Disorder

BrainstormingHow is Sensory Processing Disorder related or unrelated to high sensitivity? In some ways they are very different, but in others, there appears to be some overlap.

First of all, Sensory Processing Disorder is a disorder, and high sensitivity isn’t.

Sensory Processing Disorder means that your brain isn’t getting the information needed to interpret your senses. This can make everyday tasks difficult. “A person with SPD may over-respond to sensation and find clothing, physical contact, light, sound, food, or other sensory input to be unbearable. Another might under-respond and show little or no reaction to stimulation, even pain or extreme hot and cold.” (source:

As Dr. Elaine Aron writes, if there is an obvious red flag in a child’s development–like not rolling over by 7 months or not walking by 18 months–this is not just high sensitivity.

But in other instances, it is not so clear cut.

The overlap could occur where less-obvious Sensory Processing Disorder symptoms could be interpreted as regular sensitivity–when a person is deemed too sensitive to things. Do they have Sensory Processing Disorder or are they just highly sensitive?

For more information, read Dr. Elaine Aron’s explanation of the difference between HSP and SPD. (It’s much better than mine.)

And visit the Sensory Processing Disorder Foundation.

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Eating outside is overrated

It gets really hot in New York in the summer. 90 degrees isn’t unusual. When I lived and worked in Westchester County, just outside NYC, my coworkers always seemed to want to eat lunch in the courtyard outside our workplace. Even when it was like 90 degrees and humid.

eating outside is overrated

most people think this looks like a pleasant lunch. it looks like bug bites, sunburn, and sweat to me.

Their reasoning was that since they were stuck inside all day, lunch was their one time to escape and be outside. I understand that, but I also didn’t want to sweat in my nice work clothes when an air conditioned building was right next to me. Does. not. compute.

I remember once opening the door to the outdoor patio at work and it felt like air from a furnace hit me in the face. “You guys, it is really hot outside… are you sure you don’t want to eat inside with the A/C?” came my whiny plea. No, they inexplicably just HAD to be outside. Even though we were suffering the entire time.

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Extrovert Highly Sensitive People…finally.

hsp extrovertOne glaring topic I have neglected to cover on this blog is the 30% of HSPs who are extroverts.

The main reason for this omission is because I am not an extrovert. (btw, it can also be spelled extravert). I didn’t feel right writing about a topic with which I wasn’t that familiar.

So, I surveyed several self-identified extroverted HSPs to better understand their trait. Here is what I found.

It seems that extroverted HSPs walk a tightrope between desiring/requiring social interactions and becoming overwhelmed.

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Empathy & Regret at a Spicy Wing Eating Contest

hot wingsJim and I went to an event a few days ago that was holding a spicy wing eating contest.

I was immediately excited because Jim never thinks anything is spicy. I’ve only seen him not eat something spicy once in all the years I’ve known him. (It was a ghost pepper bloody mary.)

I was so excited about it that he pretty much had no choice but to enter the contest.

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Being extra-observant helps with some random things

obserHighly Sensitive People are often extremely observant to details. Today I was thinking about how this manifests itself in some small, quite unimportant ways.

Here are some things I think I’m good at because I am observant to details:

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Are you very polite?

Us HSPs not only have good manners, we often notice when other people’s don’t. If my husband and I are shopping and he asks an associate for help, then I don’t hear him say Thank You, I quietly hiss, “you didn’t say thank you!” (and then I feel bad about being annoying.)

thank you imageOne of my pet peeves is when I am telling a story and someone interrupts me, and then they don’t acknowledge the fact they interrupted me, or they keep talking and let my story remain unfinished. To me, that is incredibly rude and disrespectful. If I interrupt someone, I try to be careful to fix the situation. I’ll finish my thought and then say, “Sorry, I interrupted you–what were you saying?” or, “Please finish your story”, or, I will ask a specific question to show I was listening to their story and, in a small way, apologize for interrupting. [Read more…]