Posts about Coping

The Joy of Spending Time in Your Own World

The Joy of Spending Time in Your Own World

Spending time alone in silence is the gentle reminder of the company we do have. It gives time for reflections, thoughts and memories to unfold. It allows you to understand yourself in more depth and invites you to discover what makes you happy–truly happy.

Ep. 73: Dealing with Houseguests

Ep. 73: Dealing with Houseguests

Having houseguests can be fun…but stressful. In this listener-requested episode, I offer tips on how to survive houseguests and how to deal with being a houseguest yourself.

How to deal with houseguests

How to deal with houseguests

There are times when you might find yourself with friends or family staying under your roof. Depending on the situation, you might be excited and happy about this–and a bit stressed out. Look, it’s not normal to spend 24 hours a day with someone. Ok,...
Gift Guide for Highly Sensitive People & Introverts

Gift Guide for Highly Sensitive People & Introverts

Are you looking for a gift for an introverted, highly sensitive friend, co-worker, or family member? Then this list is for you. Featured are presents for people who are overwhelmed by social and environment stimuli, are empathic, sensitive to beauty, and cherish privacy and peacefulness. (And don’t forget to treat yourself!)

How to deal with overwhelming parties & gatherings

How to deal with overwhelming parties & gatherings

Recently, I traveled to the other side of the country to visit family and friends. While there, I found myself at a big family party. It’s been so long since I’d been in that situation! It reminded me how hours-long parties can wear on me, no matter how...
Ep. 69: Curious about meditation?

Ep. 69: Curious about meditation?

http://media.blubrry.com/hsp/p/www.podtrac.com/pts/redirect.mp3/traffic.libsyn.com/highlysensitiveperson/69._Meditation.mp3Subscribe: iTunes | Android | RSS This episode is for those who have never tried meditation, are curious about it, or who have tried it but felt...
Ep 62: 6 Hidden Benefits of Being Highly Sensitive

Ep 62: 6 Hidden Benefits of Being Highly Sensitive

http://media.blubrry.com/hsp/p/www.podtrac.com/pts/redirect.mp3/traffic.libsyn.com/highlysensitiveperson/Ep._62_no_ad_benefits.mp3Subscribe: iTunes | Android | RSS In episode 59, I started a 3-episode series about the positive aspects of being a Highly Sensitive...
Ep. 55: Easily Grossed Out

Ep. 55: Easily Grossed Out

http://media.blubrry.com/hsp/p/www.podtrac.com/pts/redirect.mp3/traffic.libsyn.com/highlysensitiveperson/55._Grossed_Out.mp3Subscribe: iTunes | Android | RSSIn this episode, I share stories about things that have grossed me out–a cow lung, pinning insects, and...

Sensory Deprivation: Try a float session!

Have you ever heard of floating? In the therapeutic, spa-sense? A float session consists of lying naked (or in a swimsuit) in an individual tank of warm water that is super-saturated with Epsom salts. The door of the tank can be closed so you are in complete darkness...
Podcast Episode 40: Fighting distractions at work

Podcast Episode 40: Fighting distractions at work

http://media.blubrry.com/hsp/p/www.podtrac.com/pts/redirect.mp3/traffic.libsyn.com/highlysensitiveperson/40._Distracted_at_work.mp3Subscribe: iTunes | Android | RSSI’m often surprised that I am so easily distracted when I work. Isn’t that a symptom of...
Cognitive Behavioral Therapy…heard of it?

Cognitive Behavioral Therapy…heard of it?

Lately, I have been hearing about cognitive behavioral therapy all over the place. From a close friend, HSPs who’ve emailed me to talk about it, in blog posts, and more. A friend told me in detail about her experience in cognitive therapy sessions, and I was...
Podcast Ep. 38: Handling Criticism

Podcast Ep. 38: Handling Criticism

This episode 38 is about handling criticism. I talk about three little tactics I use to help deal with negative feedback in my life. (Last week I talked about self-criticism, how HSPs often criticize themselves in order to avoid the trauma of criticism from others.)...
HSP Podcast Episode 37: Self-Criticism

HSP Podcast Episode 37: Self-Criticism

http://media.blubrry.com/hsp/p/www.podtrac.com/pts/redirect.mp3/traffic.libsyn.com/highlysensitiveperson/37._Self-criticism.mp3Subscribe: iTunes | Android | RSS My new book is out on Amazon: A Highly Sensitive Person’s Life: stories & tips for those who...
Eating outside is overrated

Eating outside is overrated

It gets really hot in New York in the summer. 90 degrees isn’t unusual. When I lived and worked in Westchester County, just outside NYC, my coworkers always seemed to want to eat lunch in the courtyard outside our workplace. Even when it was like 90 degrees and...
Do you use high sensitivity as a crutch?

Do you use high sensitivity as a crutch?

I’ve mentioned several times about how my husband Jim has tried to understand my high sensitivity. At first, he didn’t buy into the idea at all. Slowly, over time, I could tell he was accepting it more. He was able to observe, realtime, my visceral...
Anticipatory Grief

Anticipatory Grief

Anticipatory grief is a grief reaction that occurs before an impending loss, typically, the death of someone close to you. Anyone can experience it. But for HSPs, anticipatory grief can be extremely intense.

HSP Episode 17: Sensory Processing Sensitivity

HSP Episode 17: Sensory Processing Sensitivity

http://media.blubrry.com/hsp/p/www.podtrac.com/pts/redirect.mp3/traffic.libsyn.com/highlysensitiveperson/17-_Highly_Sensory_People.mp3Subscribe: iTunes | Android | RSSEpisode 17 of the Highly Sensitive Person Podcast is brought to you by the word sensitive. A blog...
Aging, Inevitability, and the Loss of Uniqueness

Aging, Inevitability, and the Loss of Uniqueness

When I was a young kid, I remember wondering why women on TV and in movies would make jokes about lying about their age or not wanting to admit their age. I thought it was so stupid; who cares how old you are? I completely, totally did not comprehend why it was a bad...
How to Explain Being an HSP to Your Partner

How to Explain Being an HSP to Your Partner

When I first learned about what it meant to be an HSP and an introvert, it was life changing. But I had to find a way to explain it to the person who has to deal with me the most, my partner. How could I explain that there’s nothing wrong with me, but that I’m just different, and my desires and needs are just as valid as a non-HSPs?

I’m not lazy…HSPs just need more sleep.

I’m not lazy…HSPs just need more sleep.

Oh, sweet, sweet, sleep. Dr. Elaine Aron recommends that HSPs “spend 8-10 hours in bed each day, sleeping or not.” (source) I totally agree! I love my sleep. “Getting enough sleep” is never a question for me. It is essential. I love feeling...
Responding to Haters, Yet Again

Responding to Haters, Yet Again

A friend posted a link to my new podcast on her Facebook wall and someone had some not-so-nice things to say. Here’s some of it: I think someone ‘realizing’ they are highly sensitive is about the worst thing that could happen to them.  It’s the...
HSP Podcast Episode 3: Decision-Free Living

HSP Podcast Episode 3: Decision-Free Living

http://media.blubrry.com/hsp/p/www.podtrac.com/pts/redirect.mp3/traffic.libsyn.com/highlysensitiveperson/HSP_decision_free_life_Ep4.mp3Subscribe: iTunes | Android | RSSWe face dozens if not hundreds of decisions every single day–from big decisions to tiny ones,...
Bad news: we can’t change the world to fit our needs

Bad news: we can’t change the world to fit our needs

Learning about introversion and high sensitivity has helped me accept myself so much more. And since then, I’ve tried to build my life in a way where I can avoid situations that stress me out and upset me. I attend fewer social events (and I don’t beat...
Should you tell people that you are an HSP?

Should you tell people that you are an HSP?

Think of a time you tried to explain high sensitivity to someone who’d never heard of it before. Maybe it was a friend, family member, or even a co-worker. And, as you are talking, you can tell from their face that they aren’t buying it. You might get the...

Anger is an emotion, too

With all this talk about how us HSPs feel emotions so deeply, I’m reminded that not all these emotions are sanguine. I had a run-in with anger the other day. Sigh. I don’t want to admit what I’m about to admit, because, of course, in retrospect, it...
How Can I Meet Other Highly Sensitive People?

How Can I Meet Other Highly Sensitive People?

I’m glad you asked! Now that you know you’re a Highly Sensitive Person, wouldn’t it be great to meet other people like you? Who also hated small talk? Who didn’t want to hang out at a noisy bar all night? Who were conscientious and good...
Why do we equate “sensitive” with “weak”?

Why do we equate “sensitive” with “weak”?

Why do so many of us think that being “sensitive” means you are “weak”? Sensitive is supposed to mean “quick to detect or respond to slight changes, signals, or influences.” That doesn’t sound weak at all…it sounds observant! It...
Highly Sensitive Person Travel Survival Kit

Highly Sensitive Person Travel Survival Kit

I enjoy traveling, but it isn’t without its challenges as an HSP. Here are a list of the essentials (and, well, not-so-essentials) that will help make your trip much more comfortable and enjoyable. Sleep Mask: Block out any offending light sources when you are...
Products to Make Your Cubicle More Bearable

Products to Make Your Cubicle More Bearable

HSPs are hyper aware of our surroundings and tend to have a greater response to pain, discomfort, and physical experience. We can get distracted easily and we despise the feeling of being watched. Sitting in a cubicle or office for hours and hours each day makes our...
Airplane turbulence scares me so much

Airplane turbulence scares me so much

Something weird has happened to me over the past ten years or so. I’ve slowly gotten more and more scared of turbulence on airplanes. It’s now to the point where I’m barely fighting off a panic attack. When I was younger, I enjoyed turbulence. I would snicker when I...
Worrying about Worrying: Anxiety Management

Worrying about Worrying: Anxiety Management

We’ve all heard about anger management–what about anxiety management? Now, not every highly sensitive person struggles with anxiety, but many of us do. Anger management teaches people how to understand and acknowledge their feelings and anger. Us anxious...
HSPs and Depression

HSPs and Depression

Is there a connection between depression and being highly sensitive? According to Dr. Elaine Aron’s research: Yes and No; it depends. To super-simplify: If an HSP grew up in a non-supportive environment, they are more likely to be depressed. If an HSP grew up in...
Decision-Free Living

Decision-Free Living

Decision-free living. Did that phrase give you goosebumps? It did for me. Do you realize how much of your energy and power that decision-making takes from you over the course of a day? Let’s look at how HSPs approach decision making. We thoroughly examine (and...
Find a Work-Around for Your Fear

Find a Work-Around for Your Fear

Amy over at Nomadtopia is spending a few weeks in Bali and has discovered lots of menacing stray dogs hanging out near her apartment. She found herself feeling fearful and stressed about having to walk by and encounter these scary canines. Her anxiety would rise...

I love listening to white noise

A few years ago, I discovered the site Simply Noise. With just a few clicks, it plays white noise and even pink or brown noise on your computer (there’s an app, too). This website saved me many times when I was in a noisy office, or when people in the cubicles...
Highly Sensitive Person Travel Tips

Highly Sensitive Person Travel Tips

People who know me well are sometimes surprised that I travel as much as I do. My husband and I traveled/lived around the world for all of 2013, going to places like Mexico, Cuba, France, Hungary, Poland, Bosnia, Bali, Australia, Thailand, Cambodia, Hong Kong, and...
Finding the “stasis of peace”

Finding the “stasis of peace”

I’m learning every day how to better manage my needs as a person with high sensitivity and introversion. Like I always say, folks, it’s about acknowledging, accepting, and adjusting! I do feel frustrated and even mad at myself sometimes because I have to...
Sorry if This is a Bit Dark: Hating my Sensitivity

Sorry if This is a Bit Dark: Hating my Sensitivity

Warning: This is a bit dark. I hate that I’m highly sensitive. I wish I was normal. I wish I wasn’t bothered by so many small things. I wish I could just be happy instead of always wishing things were better. And these feelings make me angry at myself. Why...
Deadlines, Schedules, and Commitment Stress Me Out

Deadlines, Schedules, and Commitment Stress Me Out

Yesterday I was talking to my mom on the phone and she described a super-HSP moment. She was a regular during the drop-in times at the local tennis club. One day, the club announced that instead of just showing up to play (the definition of “drop-in”),...
Second-Guessing Decisions

Second-Guessing Decisions

“I’d like the spaghetti carbonara, please,” I told the waiter. No sooner had the waiter turned his back when I was mumbling to my husband Jim, “Damn it. I should have gotten the dish with the red sauce instead. Argh!!” This is soooo...
Working at Night = Complete Control

Working at Night = Complete Control

I’ve always thought of myself as a “night” person. Not because I like to party, but because I like staying up late after everyone else in my house is asleep. Last night, when I was typing away at 2am, I realized why I’m a night owl. Because...