Many people come to this site searching for information on the best jobs for sensitive people.
And I’m going to tell you what I believe is the best option.
But, like a typical blogger, I’m not just going to tell you in the first paragraph!! Come on, now. No one does that nowadays.
First, let me tell you how I came to my conclusion. I worked in an office for around ten years, with most of that time either in a cubicle or in a room with other people. And I hated it. Everything plays a part in bothering me in an office workplace. Some things are obvious energy sucks (like traffic, while driving to work) but other things contribute only a tiny piece to making me feel awful–usually without me even realizing it. Here’s a fun list!
- Too-bright lights
- Bad smells
- My uncomfortable chair and neck/back/wrist pain
- Worrying about office friendships and politics
- Worrying about whether I’m doing a good job
- Worrying about my relationship with my boss
- Deadlines
- Having to be punctual
- Traffic
- Boredom
- Loneliness
- Fighting distractions (noise, social media) and the guilt from wasted time
- The lack of perceived freedom and the feeling of being controlled (i.e., having to “punch in”, timed lunch breaks)
So, let’s sum that up. What really saps my energy?
- Feeling controlled
- Being forced to be around other people/social interactions
- Environmental annoyances
So what’s the answer? What’s the best job?
Here it is:Ā Being self-employed. Working for yourself.
The best job for a highly sensitive person is one where they control every aspect of the environment.Ā
Some of you might be disappointed with this answer. You might feel like it isn’t a real answer. You were waiting for me to say writer or masseuse or life coach or something. Or maybe you think being self-employed sounds impossible, or is only for 20-year old whiz kids or stay-at-home-moms or people doing some kind of shady “scam” business. But it’s not true.
I know a lot of people who have created their own businesses and are doing very, very well. These folks control everything, plus they have the excitement of seeing their own creation flourish. They have the freedom to work when they want, where they want (including anywhere in the world).
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But don’t kid yourself–they probably work more hours than the typical 9-to-5er, but the difference is that they love what they do. There are lots of blogs about how to create your own business, and the reputable onesĀ are NOT get-rich-quick schemes.Ā They are people with real businesses, and they require a ton of work.
And there are definitely challenges to working for yourself, too. Click here to read my blog post about the not-so-great aspects of self-employment.
What are some examples of ways you can make moneyĀ on your own?
You could: do freelance writing, graphic design, or web design,Ā create an online store and sell other people’s products, manufacture and sell your own new product, write ebooks, create online courses and paid seminars, or be a voiceover artist, career/life coach, or affiliate marketer. I know people who doĀ everyĀ one of these things, so it IS possible!
I’ve started a list of online training resources to help you get started in figuring out an online business or how to work for yourself.
But if you aren’t interesting in working for yourself, that’s ok. Check out my list of theĀ best jobs for HSPs.Ā
Read Next: “Is self-employment really the best for HSPs?” covers more of the challenges of working for yourself.
This is so true! As you said, it takes a lot of work. I am still in the process of making that happen. I would also say that HSPs need a calling, something we can devote ourselves to. That is much more possible to follow when we create our work.
hi ritu,
i am not satisfied anywhere, i dont know what to do, can i work in a call centre. will that be benificial. or should i start something of my own.
hussian13@yahoo.com
husein.
Hi Husein, thanks for your comment. I used to work in tech support–it was a difficult job where I had to completely learn 5 different pieces of software. I occasionally had to deal with frustrated people who would take their anger out on me. Also, a job like a call center feels “never-ending”…..the calls never stop. It’s the same thing every day. It almost feels like there is no progress. So, personally, this was a bad job for me. I left after a year.
However, this does not mean you will feel the same. Perhaps you might like that there isn’t a great deal of face-to-face interaction?
If you are able to start a business of your own, I would definitely recommend giving it a shot!
thanks for the reply,
i have a shop in my hometown in an residential area. what do you recommend to start there. also tell me, isnt that a job where i have to deal with people all the time. or i will have that feeling that it is my own business.
please suggest, because i very much confused.
husein.
This is great! I am an art major (surprise) and the offices I’ve peaked my head into on these types of careers are way different/better than 90% of offices I’ve seen. But the pinnacle is being self-employed. I am in agreement. Kudos to this article!
Thanks Jennifer! I’m glad you liked it.
You are so right. My husband and I are both HSPs; he is a self-employed violin maker and artist, and I write. We’re both at home, set our own schedules…and, well, don’t always make much money. But we wouldn’t trade it for a million dollars. You can learn to live cheaply but you can’t force yourself to function happily in a situation for which you are ill-suited.
Thanks so much for including us in your (seriously awesome) post, Kelly!
Much appreciated, girl š
This site is AMAZING, I wouldnt have the time or words to explain how happy I am to have found this blog, apparently I am rare, an extroverted HSP ha. I am female, early 30’s, I am a nurse, & I do love my job & my patients, but I CAN NOT DEAL with staff, doctors, managers, etc…it makes me hate my job & loose focus:-( I have had several jobs this year alone, I bounce around to the next place when a co-worker or manager rubs me the wrong way, & most “normal” people are able to just blow it off or not let it get to them, but I am not capable of doing that.
Im so scared my resume will freak out future employers, luckily I am in a field thats always easy to get a job…I work in the Operating Room, probably not the best environment for a HSP!!! I would LOVE to work from home, I keep telling people that but they say “no, you’ll get bored, you wouldn’t like that” but people just dont get it & DONT UNDERSTAND ME & I am so sick & tired of it!!! I do not like the control feeling I have when working with certain managers or co-workers, I AM extroverted but its gotta be on MY time & when I feel comfortable with it & the people I am surrounding myself with, if someone rubs me the wrong way or hurts my feelings & I get bad vibes then thats it, I dont talk to them anymore & ignore them. & they will NEVER understand it because I have talked about it with said offenders & they JUST DONT GET how I can be sooo sensitive & get my feelings hurt so easily.
I feel like I can do ANY job as long as I am surrounded by the right people…but at every hospital/unit theres always THAT ONE PERSON, & its what stops me from wanting to work there full-time. I do agency work now, I LOVE it cause I am not committed to one facility & I get to go from place to place & if I come across people who are a threat to me then I have relief in thinking “well, at least I wont have to work here tomorrow!” I am seeking out something nurse-related to do on-line, I get such a relief thinking I wouldnt have to deal with people day in & day out. It causes me EXTREME anxiety & stress which leads to depression:-( I also have childhood issues that still kinda affect me ha, but the main issue really is my Hyper/Highly sensitive trait. I also have my personal trainer certification, & I know you can do stuff with that online, so I am looking into that. I was in a part-time sales job doing demos for a company I love & support their mission/values, but it got too hard dealing with all the personalities (especially aggressive guys) & such, funny that sales is #1 job we should not do! Totally agree. Sorry for such a loooong post but this site & blog is SAVING ME trust me. I dont feel alone & depressed anymore:-) I will be around here often. Thanks again!
Michelle, thanks so much for your comment; I’m so glad the site has been helpful! I have also discovered just how much the dislike of feeling controlled looms large in my life. I hope you are able to find a career that works for your temperament!!
I am an HSP and I am going to try to become more self-employed.
I found the 2books by Elaine Aron pHD. on Highly sensitive people mostly encouraging and gives you tips on how to deal with over arousal. I stopped coffee and feel much better on the inside. She says caffeine is a drug for an HSP and she is right. There is so much positive on this trait that you need to know. Because of her books, I feel like I am healing and more happy.
Wow !!!!!
You sound sooooo……much like me!!!!
My name is Michelle, too!!! (0:
Have you considered being a travel nurse? You wouldn’t have to deal with the same management for more than 3 months or a couple weeks, depending what length of time you choose to work with a hospital. They pay is very good too. I hope you find something that makes you thrive!
Oh ā people are always full of advice on how they know what you want better than you do. I keep a lot of my real expectations private, only tell people what’s relevant now, and when I’m ready to speak about something with others, they will then tell me that’s not what I want and that I wouldn’t be happy, based on what I’ve told them earlier. This also happened when I was ready to start thinking about whether I want to have kids. Apparently this is up to everyone else and I’m not in a position to make my own mind up – because before I was anywhere near ready I’d tell people I don’t want kids (but always knew I’d think about it when older). People can be so narrow minded and arrogant. So frustrating. And don’t seem able to give back the support, understanding or empathy that they so readily take.
I’m so similar to you!! I work in mental health and am an O.T technician. I thought it was the perfect job for me but it is totally breaking me! As you say, patients are ok it’s the intense co workers and management that cause so much anxiety and self doubt.
I am trapped – finally I am making an ok amount of money but I’m constantly effected by the harshness, political and social issues and bad energy of the place.
Looking on job sites fills me with despair!!
I have recently learned to Journey using Shamanic training. I’m hoping this skill can guide me to a decision. I’m also an artist, I would love to do this full time!!
Good luck and hope you find your way.
Wow, I can really relate to your comment! I am a juvenile probation officer and honestly, it’s starting to break me. I used to have such enthusiasm for it but it’s sort of disappeared. It’s my coworkers who are breaking me, too. I always feel judged and this leads to lots of self-doubt (coworkers are all the stereotypical “put them in their place” types, lots of profanity & vulgarity – in general but mostly toward the offenders-, etc.). Like you said – lots of bad energy and overall politics. It’s really started to make me feel like the general public is just rather nasty and mean spirited.
And yes, I feel trapped too because I’m finally making decent pay and have worked my way up to earning a fair amount of vacation. I’m trying to hang in there and search for something that is a better fit, but my greatest fear is that all jobs will be this dysfunctional and filled with snarky types.
I wish you the best of luck! The Shamanic training sounds fascinating and I hope it leads to some clarity.
Wow! We should really start a group or something! I feel more empowered already; just listening to everyone on here makes me feel happier…knowing that I’m not alone and that nothing is wrong with. I thought that I needed counseling or mental help because I don’t stick to any job where I have to deal with mean, nasty, and insensitive people… I’m 29 now and nothing has changed. But I hope things get better because I have gone to School after school, have 2 degrees and 2 different licenses, and have tried several careers and I’m still struggling, but things will get better, I hope. Any advice on being a ln Elementary school teacher for a HSP? Thanks guys because I can relate to most of you and I really appreciate the advice and comments.
I work in an elementary school and recently I saw a staff person, I think is very good with kids, upset with a little girl who was crying after she asked her what she wanted for breakfast. You and I know that this little girl was hurt somehow, but non- hsp don’t seem to get it. I’ve seen good elementary teachers just so critical of their hsp kindergarteneners. It surprised me.Ive also work with insensitive staff that can’t see past the surface level behavior of a child. I think most people don’t have the hsp gift and can’t see the real emotions. Its frusterating because understanding emotions can’t always be proven or believed like data. I feel sorry now for hsp kids, it’s tough for them in a “safe” place where teachers and staff get mad at them for crying. I’m starting my masters for social work to eventually be a counselor. Hopefully then my hsp qualities will help people and give me satisfaction of meaning. I tried working as a freelance graphic artist but it was inconsistent and I didn’t want to put more effort into something that gave little back.
I found a job that I love! After struggling for a decade trying to work as a dental assistant I went back to school and now work as a registered dental hygienist. I control my day for the most part and deal with clients one on one. I am very aware of their needs due to my highly sensitive nature. It has become an asset that I’m learning to balance and feel great satisfaction in helping people and making sure they feel safe and keep their teeth.
I am in my fifties and learned later in life the extent of this gift. The knowledge has been empowering.
Heather
Thank you for this comment, Heather!! I’m glad to hear you found a job you love; that is wonderful! š
i donāt know how to use cookies. I never. Used them. Explain? I am educated. A senior worked all my life didnāt get much satisfaction even from professionals. Would like to meet sensitive people I relate to. Those who have done something with their life.
I am an HSP. I agree with all of you guys here especially Michelle. I think we should created our own group because other people just couldn’t understand us. It i us that understands us. People is just to fast to give advise to us but their advise is just applicable for themselves. There is no one else to ask for help except you. And i think you guys are better business partners than Non-HSPs.
I work in an office now for five years and it’s like hell. Everything sucks including an insensitive supervisor who thinks he is the most intelligent of us all. I need help how to deals with this genius wanna be.
Having my own business is one of my plans i’m afraid to pursue it. Having read this article gives me hope and maybe this can give me courage to go for it.
Please anyone of you who have the capacity to organize please do so.
I really dread and hate being controlled, and like somebody else wrote up there, it’s the bosses and managers that have stressed me out, not so much the customers. I have worked in admin and hospitality, and definitely hated the office full time environment. EVERYTHING about it, so much so I became very depressed and anxious and almost wished for death. Only survived in hospitality as a temp so far. I feel super guilty for not supporting myself and still getting money from my parents, but I don’t seem to be able to hold down a job because I become too anxious/unhappy and faking it doesn’t go too well.
Now I keep wondering, am I going to find my higher calling? Or is there something wrong with me that I hate being controlled so much that I get anxious at the mere thought of it?
I’m 29 now, I’ve studied most of my life to survive and not fall into a depressed heap (unfortunately I haven’t found a use or wanting to for my B.A. in Lit or my TESOL cert. so far). I’ve already volunteered for a yr and went down the path of considering non profits and social enterprises (but most of them here mostly need volunteers or qualified experienced workers), it may not be my thing, plus they require sitting in offices too.
I’m not motivated by money, mostly motivated by the fact that something is interesting to me and has a point. If I try to force myself to do something I hate, I’ve only ended up an anxious depressed heap struggling to function. I’m intelligent so I need mental stimulation but not a hectic environment like waitressing because my head gets foggy and I find my thoughts drifting off too often. The anxiety impacted my ability to remember things too, and has resulted in some fatigue too over the years.
My latest idea is to study Naturopathy, so that my brain might gets the mental stimulation it so craves, while working to make a difference after I graduate as opposed to money. (Not to mention helping to resolve my own health issues due to all the worrying over the years).
I feel I may be getting close to narrowing in on my strengths and what my personality would be suited to.
Honestly I worry I’m spoiled, but I don’t know how to function in ‘normal’ society with ‘normal’ unsensitive people in jobs, who like to get drunk frequently and not talk about anything deep or intelligent. I feel like the odd one out in every job I’ve had. I need more than money! I need a career I’m passionate about. I’ve kept searching for 11yrs, it’s what keeps me going.
I value freedom over lots of money. I also have a low BS tolerance and feel exhausted and frustrated being surrounded by people who are fake or narcissistic. I know I’m really idealistic, but it seems that if more people move towards their passions and doing things not for just the money, we will end up with a better planet. I’m not willing to sell my soul for a job because it sickens me to the core! I am not capable of bending my values for a company. But that’s the norm!
hello,
make a list of things that you would love to do then try to find out the work as per that.
hussian13@yahoo.com
That is a great idea Husein; Sometimes brainstorming by writing out ideas can help – It can be overwhelming “where to begin”, so jotting things down is a great idea, I am going to do this today š
(p.s. Please see my ‘advice’ re: my experience working at call centres [yes, plural – I have worked in more than one so can tell you they are ALL the same, without a doubt] below…
I can relate to you a lot and am also idealistic. I totally agree…imagine a world where everyone did what they love and used their unique talents. Imagine a world where people lived true to themselves and their values. š You sound like a great person!
Thank for your comment. In my day life I am looking around to meet this sight of a sensitive people. Is so hard to be sorrounded by people that simply don’t care of the same things. That don’t feel in this way.
Izabela, You sound so much like me. Did you ever find a job that feels right?
I am 61 years old and have spend my life just trying to survive and recover from major depression and anxiety. I want to find a job that is meaningful but not overwhelming and not surrounded by back-biters and otherwise unkind people.
I can’t seem to find true friends or support people either…I live in less populated, rural area.
Reading your post and you sound just like me Izabela. I worked as a Chiropodist for 5 years but I struggled with focusing and found that my thoughts drifted. Iām so sensitive to energies that I seem to get overwhelmed easily. Money doesnāt concern me either but I realise itās whatās needed to live. Iām currently looking to start a pet sitting business so we shall see how that goes. I would very much love to find my ācallingā like a lot of hsp to give me focus and enthusiasm for work. Iām very interested in naturopathy also so thatās something I will definitely look into. Great idea šš¼ Itās reassuring to read that other people struggle with this. It can be a blessing and a curse. I wish you all the best in your journey to find something that suits you Izabela. š
Oh my gosh, I feel like the lot of youārelieved to find others like me!! Iāve also been thinking of a pet care/dog walking business or something along those lines. I recently, out of desperation, took up an assistant job in an insurance agencyāI am completely miserable, stressed, and depressed. I simply cannot go on in this type of job. I am a bit more hopeful, though, now that I know there are others like me and we have specific needs for our well-being.
Hello everyone š I too am SO GLAD to have found this website – I cannot thank you enough for creating it!
I’m sure like a lot of you here, I too felt for my whole like that people do not understand me, and that there was ‘something wrong with me’ – now I understand what it is! Even just that is so freeing!
I just left a call-centre job and wouldn’t recommend anyone working in one, not even my worst enemy LET ALONE an HSP !!!!!!!!
The list above, everything from bright lights to ‘never ending’ – that is what I found; it is literally NON-STOP from the moment you start your shift. Call centres are all about the stats – meaning they want you to have a low call-time, so you feel rushed, and also never good enough, as they will sure remind you (daily) how you need to improve.
I have been out for 2 months now and feel a million times better mentally.
There is also no progress, or chance to ‘work your way up’ in the job (sorry, but who wants to be Supervisor of a call centre? No one’s life goal I’m sure!) Plus, you’re still in that toxic, negative environment.
Anyways, I just wanted to say thank you for this post, I am hoping to someday have my own business – Life is short, if you have the desire then GO FOR IT!
I do not want regrets on my death-bed someday – “Find out what you love to do, and find a way to make money at it”
Your work/job/career takes up so much of your life, NO one should have to do something they hate every single day. What kind of a life is that? My time at the call centre showed me that – I’d rather be BROKE than have to feel that way daily.
Best wishes to you all!
Hi Heather, I totally agree with so many things you said! I also don’t want to regret being in a terrible job for years. Call centers are the WORST. Good on you for deciding to make a change and go for the life you want!!
Hi Kelly!
I’m so glad I found this website! thanks for creating it! š
I’m a HSP myself and struggled with working for the corporate world for 20 years. I was getting sick, getting panick attacks and a strong feeling of emptiness until I decided to create my own business helping people find their life purpose. My work is being focused more towrds the HSP now. I created a Meet Up group for HSPs in South Florida and I’m very excited about how everything!
Glad I found you! just signed up for your Newsletter and I’m looking forward to knowing more about your work.
Have a great day and keep up the good work!
Patricia
Hi Patricia! It’s funny, I have been thinking about creating an HSP meetup in my town, too! Have you had meetings already? How is it going?? Thanks for your comment and the kind words about the site!
Hi Kelly!
I had the first meeting the first thursday of Nov and we’ll have the next one on Dec 4. I had 9 people at the meeting, we’ll see if the group keeps growing. I basically dedicated a time for introductions, I also read a little from the HSP book and shared our thoughts and experiences š
hello,
may i know which have you started. it may help me also.
thanks
husein
you can directly write to me if you wish
hussian13@yahoo.com
Do you think being an interpreter could be a good Idea ? Or maybe a translator ?
I’m an attorney and often work with interpreters and translators. Document translation can be ok if you’re ok with solo work. Sometimes deadlines can be tight, but that is in part a matter of reasonable expectations. In terms of interpreting – I did some of this in law school. I was ok with interpreting at clinics and hospitals because it was mostly individualized work. The stressful part for me was traveling to different places. I did not like that – I didn’t know my city well enough at the time to always know the best routes and reasonable travel times. This was before GPS was on most cell phones. Had I been at one location for interpreting or just a couple locations I think it would have been less stressful. My schedule was flexible though. Maybe talk people who do that work in your area to know if you could get info on how their work life is arranged and what you can expect.
ADM, thank you for sharing your experience in translating!
I am a HSP and I have been (retired now) a pediatric dentist for 25 years. I enjoyed the connexion I had with my little patients and I know I was particularly appreciated because of my empathy. Understanding their fear of dental procedures was key: I would reassure and support them. I also enjoyed that we were only three working people: one hygienist – assistant and my secretary. And then all the love from my little patients ! I would of hated to be a regular adult dentist. Recognizing I had a special bond with children has been very important in my profesional life and then I was a mom and totally in my element!
Hi Isabe, thank you for sharing your experience! I am so happy to hear that you liked being a dentist for kids. What a lovely description!!
you are lucky that you are living a life of your choice.
husein
Isabe you I am so glad to hear that you found your niche. I can tell the little ones loved you.
I too worked with kids in well baby as a nurse. Although I was in a clinic I worked with a great group of people who loved what they did.
I can attest that to work with pretty health kids from 2 wks through 5 years was the best job I ever had.
Hated working for the city( government entities in my opinion are the WORST environments for HSP, but the 6 nurses I worked with and the moms with their little ones was great. That was a long time ago and I have had too many jobs to list, and have not found my way.
I have some medical issues, so I have not been able to work which is something I never factored into my life. I had worked on my masters degree for years with the intention of controlling my own world( counseling kids and families) and it has been a battle to accept my limitations while trying to figure out the rest of my life.
I knew when I was 6 that I was HSP, I had many people to tell me, and I wish that I had pursued counseling as my first love- working with people or families one on one.
But trying to working around pretty significant physical limitations, being HSP, and middle aged with intern attached to my name is a bad combination.
Anyway your story made me reminisce about the days I was happy even if it only lasted 5 YRS out of a million.
Trying to find the next stage of my life.
I worry about all the things on the list too especially the social side of things and bright lights, heating and bad smells. I have been working for an agency doing domestic cleaning. coping with a small number of people , in a house, so natural light. My clients keep changing though due to life changes ( illness, so had carers, 6 month holiday, not being able to fit me in with their work schedule, moving house). I feel unsettled .
I am an HSP, but it is pretty mild because of learning skills from effective therapy, vigorous exercise and consistent meditation. I am a little worried that HSP literature is written for an affluent audience with a college degree and the luxury of time. Much of the talk about finding work that fits is geared towards people who have the finances and time to make those transitions and choices. Please write something for people who are HSP, have to stay in a situation due to money or other circumstances. I have had to stay in a few toxic, low paying work situations because I was a teacher and the hiring cycle as well as the pay frequency and the requirement to promise availability well ahead of a term beginning while risking the possibility of that assignment being yanked away served as a toxic brew. I am among the lucky who is doing okay mentally and doing lots of great skill building things outside of my job. But there are many who aren’t….
I like your comment Emily. It is a tough world and it would be lovely to have time and money on our side. I really believe in people following their hearts and dreams,but this has to be balanced with keeping the wolf from the door. He’s a hungry beast!! š
I found a great comunity of HSPs on Facebook. For anyone feeling alone, its a great support system. I feel i found a family where people get me finally.
Anyway. I worked 15 jobs in 10 years… was canned from most of them. I had a problem with authority and limited training n stuff. Now i need a new job and i cant get any references from any jobs. I guess i need to train in another field. I find it overwhelming and confusing. At 50 its hard to start at the bottom again. Thanks to everyone for sharing here btw. Great site with great insights!
All the best to all!
hello,
i am facing the same problem. can i write to you directly.
hussian13@yahoo.com
sure, email me at kelly at highlysensitiveperson dot net.
Me three! Unfortunately, it wasn’t until I hit 51 this year that it’s the enviroment–not me!
Thank you, everyone, for sharing your stories; this has been an amazing eye opener.
I definitely agree with the author. Fortunately, in my field (artistic) freelance work is common, but still there are people who do not understand that more individual work style does not limit productivity. It may be quite the opposite. It all depends on your personality š
Kelly
Thank you for this article I find myself wondering what road to take. I went 2 years into college for human resources degree and didint follow thru because dealing with sad difficult situations would definitely take a toll me emotionally. Later I decided to do hair so I did cosmetology and graduated I found that salon life is tough and full of drama and clients tend to expect so much from you I felt like I had to impress every single one of them and felt anxiety of not messing up all the time. It seems to me when I feel comfortable and in control I do much better , but if I’m watched or feel analyzed I freak out. And I feel I could relate to a few of my clients but for the most part it was hard to talk the entire time to them. I love doing hair but find the atmosphere a bit crazy for my personality type what recommendations do you have for making it work.
I have been looking at other possible careers and I just can’t make up what I want. All I know is I want to help people feel better be better, I have looked in other fields but I can’t handle any medical setting makes me sick..
If anyone has any advice I would greatly appreciate it š and if anyone is a fellow hairstylist please give me some tips thank you very much!!!
I too have struggled with jobs!!! I just started working in retail…AGAIN, but have learned a few things along the way to help myself cope better. A supplement called Happy Camper is an herbal blend that really helps keep me calmer, plus getting a good nights sleep and keeping the tv off while I’m at home. I also don’t drink too much like I used to and made my already difficult life even worse!!! I’m 57 years old and have probly 200 failed jobs in my past BUT I have finally come to the conclusion that NO job is going to be “easy” for me. Dealing with people will always be my Achilles heal! Prayer and “quiet time” work WONDERS for my frazzled NERVES! I appreciate all of you sharing your stories! We are not alone! Thank you.
Personally I find the idea of being freelance and therefore not knowing when my salary will be paid and the high possibility of having to argue with people to get paid is a big red flag in my HSP mind…can anyone else relate to that?
In the past when I’ve worked doing translations, for example, that was a dealbreaker for me (especially upsetting after all the hard work and thought I’d put into doing justice to the original text I was translating)!
Hi Sara, thanks for the comment. I’ve been struggling with this the past few months, too. I am a freelancer and the stress of uncertainty has been building on me. Most of my work is reliable, but it’s still stressful to not have good health insurance and stuff like that. I’ve been thinking for a while that I need to re-work this post on the best jobs for HSPs. Thanks for the kick!! š
Hi Kelly, How do you deal with self-promotion? I agree with you about the benefits of self-employment. I did it for over 15 years and found that if I had a small part-time job on the side it helped me with the social aspect I was missing and helped me have the feeling of some regularity when work would come on a feast or famine basis. I eventually ditched self-employment to get a regular job in non-profits, which was a mistake. The self-promotion aspect of self-employment is a problem I haven’t been able to solve. When people come to me for the work I do, I’ve very confident. But when I have to search for it, all my insecurities come rushing to the surface.
Hi Kim, thanks for the comment. Just when I think I’m doing ok with self-promotion, I see someone else who is super confident and just crushing it. I enjoy doing promotion online, to an extent, but find it more difficult in real life. I think you have to tell yourself some things over and over: *acting* confident makes you confident, and makes other people think you know what you’re doing! I know some people who run a website where they sell online courses and they simply ACT like confident authorities, and talk about all the money they make, so people believe it! It’s kind of a self-fulfilling prophecy. I’m not saying that they AREN’T doing a great job–but simply putting confidence out there makes a huge difference. I just tell myself–everyone else does self-promotion, why shouldn’t I? I shouldn’t be afraid of it. It’s all coming from a sincere desire to help people, too. Thanks for this question!
I am a highly sensitive person trying to find my path in life. I am in nursing school but I severely hate it but I have a student loan and if I finish I only pay back 1/4 of the loan. It is definitely a struggle that I hope my intellect will win over my emotions. I am considering a naturopath as a profession after my nursing degree which is why I took nursing. After living with an abusive narcistic ex-husband for 15 years, and still living with my autistic son who has violent outbursts, I feel my strength as fallen where I can not move. I found I liked working in call centres because I usually do not have to interact with others that much other than on the phone. It seems that on the phone it doesn`t matter if they get really upset or not, I do not take it personal at all and enjoy talking to people and I can be happy. The only reason I quit at these jobs is from a supervisor commenting about me even something little, I do not want to go back so I don’t. I feel like I am changing now because I do not care if things are uncomfortable I am doing it anyway. Blessing these people in my life which are not the best and doing it anyway. I am not running anymore. I am even talking back with my abusive ex which is very healing for me but mostly because I need people in my life to help me. Of course I put my boundaries up and am prepared to say things and leave the situation. He knows that I will call police on him or anyone in my life that is abusive. I respect myself and feel like I did my best and there is nothing I could have done different; some people just have problems and it is theirs to deal with. I can be a great nurse but it is really hard to disconnect from people under my care but I am learning.
Thank you for this post, and your blog! Trying to figure out my career path felt so stressful, depressing and hopeless before I learned I was an HSP. I am a music teacher, and spent two miserable years teaching in a school full time before I understood that a classroom environment was a terrible fit for me! I was constantly overstimulated and drained, and the way I felt about my job affected every area of my life. I have always loved working with children, but school teaching overwhelmed me so much, I was unable to use my sensitivity as a strength because I felt like I was constantly in survival mode.
I now teach private music lessons, which allows me to work one on one with children, in my own home, on my own schedule. I get to know my kids much more, and can help meet their learning needs because I have a better understanding of how they learn. I am also a wedding videographer during the summer, which works out great since my teaching year finishes with the school year in June. There are certainly many challenges to being self-employed, but they’re worth it to me because I’m much happier and fulfilled doing work I enjoy on my own terms. š
Wow this site is amazing !!! For years I had my family members tell me I care too much and a HSP and just don’t get what it is like for me. I have been struggling with jobs since the day I started working because like Michelle I am a rare extrovert HSP. I have tried many different jobs and I do love helping people but I can’t stand all the hoops you have to go through to do a job and I am not good with time management which is something I’m trying to work on. I’m trying to find a job that works with my depression and anxiety. I really want to work for myself I had my life and health insurance license and had a billing and coding license with the hopes of working for myself at home. I don’t mind working in the public but now I work at home for a call center and it is the worst 90% of calls is complaints and I want to help but it gets overwhelming and I just want to hang up the phone especially when they start yelling, I get so stressed out and my family is like it’s just a up you don’t know these people. I was thinking up my own business but too scared to try I just feel like I will end up spending my little money I have and go broke. Any help or suggestions
I think I am HSP.
I have always thought of myself as a logical creative type.
Almost all those that know me would be surprised to hear that the reason that I am late to every social gathering is because I get anxious about socialising and struggle to leave the house, even though I am usually the last to leave and play a supporting role to the true extroverts.
My heart has a physical pain when those that love me throw criticism or ugly words my way. It bothers and sits on my shoulders for weeks, months…years.
I cannot watch scary films without my heart rate and vocal chords going through the roof (yes, I know it is not real!).
My career to date has been in Project Support in a lot of industries. I get bored easily and like that I can work on different projects. Telecoms is the most unpredictable, ego-fuelled and fast paced environment, people tend to be rude, abrupt and brash and I have learned to put a mask on my face to fake “toughening up”.
Nuclear was refreshing, everything has to be 100% accurate and time is given to get it right. There are no insecurities amongst the professionals, they are so intelligent and confident that there is no criticism, just support and lessons learnt.
I have had roles as a Project Manager but fall down with the whole leadership thing when I know I am getting people to do things sometimes that they really don’t want to do. I feel so bad for them that I end up doing it. Argh! I am much better in supporting roles.
I intuitively know what people want with little direction from them and produce more than they expect….but only if I am left alone to get on with it. Micro manage me and I wither and die. Throw compliments my way periodically and make me feel supported and I will knock your socks off!
Anyway…
I really don’t think it is about the right job always, but about finding the right job in the right industry.
I have recently had a very bad experience in telecoms and I am thinking of changing career altogether, Graphic Design sounds appealing as my creative side would be getting the nurturing it needs as well as using the logical rules that are applied. But maybe I just need to get trained in Project Planning, it pays well for a supporting role and there are moments of interacting with others then hiding in your own world as you put the needs of a project down on paper (so to speak)
If I had my time over again, I think I would go into Human Factors, Product Design or Service Design.
Highly sensitive people should look for careers that allow down time throughout the day so that they can recuperate from very stimulating environments. If you’re a highly sensitive person, look for jobs that will work well with your creative nature and your ability to work alone.
I had to control so much in work, rather than it controlling the world, so, I began a journey in full time studying and playing of the Roulette Casino game. If it wasn’t for my emotional landslides, I really can win each and every time. I have put my faith in he strength of probabilities over the stresses of today. I also was pushed to think up a way to solve all Lotto drawings. So far, With graph paper and pencil, I have come up with a set pattern of connecting lines and dots, that happens in nature, and when starting this pattern at the final digit of the preceding lotto drawing, then it is known what the next lotto numbers are by measuring up this design. It’s all because I know, in my wisdom, that all of nature is set. Presently, I am searching for a computer expert to be able to graph my design with ease repetitively, as drawing it free hand has its flaws.
Thank you everyone for sharing. I recently realized I was the rare extroverted HSP, lol. Sometimes I question the extroverted part due to never ending problems in the work industry. I, too, seem to have a new job every year, but I’m almost 59 and won’t be able to do that much longer. I am so grateful to know that my inability to get along with most those in authority isn’t just me being hard to get along with. . My micromanaging boss this week comes into a room where I am asking me why I am doing that and not this. I feel she’s trying to get me to quit. Why is the HSP in me so opposed to the control? I alway feel I’m defending my different yet efficient ways of doing things. (So I think, lol) I just want to not waste time so I find the need to complete my tasks. I worked with preschoolers, who I loved.
I understand not liking control, and defending the way we do things. It can be difficult to find the balance between keeping an open mind to criticism, not getting walked on, and not being too contrarian. Micromanaging bosses are the worst!
I wonder why as a man i was was born highly sensitive, I feel friendless and lonely when people back off at a time when they realise I am not like other men
15-20% of the general population are HSPs. There are an equal amount of male and female HSPs.
You Guys must be fortunate for not experiencing a nervous attack while introducing yourself in front of an audience and as well a hyper hydrosis(palm seating and dripping), I find this life like a curse and unable to change these shortcomings no matter reading self help books.
Hi Vinod, thank you for your comment. Being nervous is front of crowds is not exclusive to highly sensitive people. It’s actually one of the most common fears there is, so you are not alone!!
I am now searching for my third business because I have burnt myself out in the last two. The first was a Help service, doing a variety of things for ppl. But the last few years of it… because I have a hard time saying NO, turned into a Cleaning Business… I developed chemical sensitivities… Lasted almost 6 yrs. Then I started a grooming business as I have always loved working with dogs… Two years in, developed allergies… But I held onto it until recently. Two yrs. ago, I brought my work home. for financial reasons and to cut back on hours because I have been so sluggish. So a total of almost 6 years. A few moths ago, I discovered mold in the area of my basement where I groomed. mixed with chemicals and other stresses… And . BOOM!,now I am SUPER Hypersensitive…And No doctors will help me. They just want to refer me to mental health for depression… which in turn upsets me more. I have ALWAYS been there for others above and beyond and now the only help I seem to get from most is them telling me it’s all in my head, Your crazy, psyco or out of control. I hate feeling, I no longer have control and am becoming a horrible person… I don’t want to become. It sucks to have everything you love ripped out from under me and there’s nothing I can do about it. I have been out of work for since. I have lots of business ideas… but feeling ill and sensitive I honestly just want to become a hermit. I have always been an optimist and people pleaser with a very hyper, out going personality. I feel like I have lost that now… I have no desire or motivation, nor do I even want to leave my house, But know I need something to pay bills… Anyone else experienced similar?
Hi Terri,
I believe what you’re experiencing is toxic overload and it is imparing your immune system. I have many health issues and i can guide you towards the right direction. The first thing you need to do is to avoid doctors and hospitals and take a holistic approach to this. Because the nature of your problem is environmental, you will need to get rid of all the triggers like food sensitivities, electromagnetics like too much time on the computer or smarphones and all harsh cleaning products. Second, find a qualified naturopath that can run specific tests such as a live blood analysis to see what’s going on in your body. Do not take anti-depressants. Once you fix the internal imbalances, the depression will go away. Thirdly, diet pays a huge role in the HSP. Some foods will make you sick like caffeine, which stimulates your adrenal glands, which then will cause burnout. You need to replenish your body as a whole in order to feel better. Also, please refer to this website for information on health: http://www.drlwilson.com . All the best.
Iman- 26 years old- Crohns disease, chronic fatigue syndrome, low thyorid, hairloss, depression, anxiety.
…and for those of you who are wanting to start your own business… it’s not that hard… you just have to want it. I started my first business in my twenties because I got tired of sloppy workers or those that would complain constantly… I started with what I was good at., and contacted SCORE. that was my platform to jump off as they were so supportive. They are a bunch of retired professionals just wanting to help in their “field” of experience. You get matched to those who have that experience in the area your interested in. Then… JUMP. If your self employed or set up as an LLC. that is the easiest set up. Websites are easy to set up now with just templates already set up and marketing can be rather cheap as the best form is word of mouth. I grew both of my past businesses quite fast and with committed clients, as I am a ppl. pleaser and always give my best. My problem was separating business and personal, as I am easy to talk to… But again, a downfall because I can’t say No, and will help even when I have nothing left to give. In both businesses I hired employees… but again, it didn’t work, because it is so hard to find ppl. that are as dedicated to the work as I am or who genuinely care about the quality of their work… So I found it easier to work alone.
Hello , I am an HSP in my early 30s , i have been suffering a lot without actually knowing why ? , till recently i came by a video and read the book about HSP , only after i did understand why , i decided to move to a new place and start all over by studying a master in marketing management , i am a graphic designer with a bachelor in arts , and i started to freak out if am going to survive that course or not , as i risk with much money , time and high hopes ,, Fear to fail or not be good enough to fulfill the course requirements and successfully earn it , is draining me , any helpful thoughts i would highly appreciate it ? thanks
Hi there,
I always knew I was a HSP, but I never had the coping skills, neither did my family. I went through a rebellious period, during my teens and early 20s. I am now 26. I went to University and completed a B.A in Communication and Sociology. Worked in Administration for 3 years. I’ve now reached a breaking point. I hate everything. I am not living my truth. I really want my own business and my interest lie in holistic health like yoga and other healing modalities. I’m hoping to have at least 2-3 businesses by the age of 30. 1) yoga certification where I can teach anywhere 2) Freelance virtual assistance and 3) and develop a personal idea i share with my boyfriend. I have no idea how to do the latter and I have no role models.
Hi Iman
I totally understand how you feel. I am still feeling lost as I go along. I studied social work for 2 years and switched to accounting when I realized it was too much contact and emotional stimulation for me to do. I am currently pursuing my accounting degree and feeling lost about what to do as a career.
I am very interested in holistic modalities too such as yoga, naturopathy and personal coaching. I feel as though having my own business and doing something meaningful at my own pace and under my own control would be ideal. I too have no clue where to start but I am taking things one step at a time.
Good luck with you starting you businesses! š
This is the perfect thing for me to read right now. I’ve been working in a care role for the past 6years (my longest job at 32yrs old) and only been able to stick it due to it being an agency job (once I know I’m trapped I panic!) it’s been good in lots of ways but has finally taken its toll on me emotionally as I’m an empath. I’m leaving in 6weeks and am considering what else I can do. I’m a musician but sadly that doesn’t pay the bills. I’ve always wanted to be self employed & money certainly isn’t my driving factor so I’m hoping I get some inspiration ..pretty quick! All the jobs I think about near me seem to have draw backs..lighting..working with people who aren’t sensitive..tricky environments. I question if I’m spoilt/too fussy but reading this post has boosted me so much. THANKYOU!!!!
So glad you found this helpful, Sarah! š
Hi all, I am so thankful for this site and reading all the generous comments people have left. Truly amazing and I thought I was the only one. I am 29 and have struggled to keep a job for more than a year at a time. I’m an extrovert too. No one I know understands. I have been a dental nurse for more than 10 years on and off. I have worked in retail, hospitality, call centres and admin. I have studied business which didn’t get me anywhere. Then I started studying law. I failed a few subjects and was working basically for free for more than a year at a dodgy law firm. This sent me over the edge and I had a mental breakdown. I’ve never seen a doctor but I know I’m depressed. I have recently quit my job as a dental practice manager and then unquit a day later when I realised shit i need the money. I’m a total drainer on my poor partner and this kills me. Before reading this I had truly come to the conclusion that it’s not the job it’s me and I will be like this my whole life. It’s quite depressing not knowing what’s wrong with you. I am constantly told how intelligent I am, how great I am at my job, how efficient I am. Yet I have not found my place. My one true calling that will keep the complete ME satisfied. I was recently told by my boss that searching for hapiness can be a waste of ones life and that sometimes the hapiness we seek doesn’t really exist. I called bullshit. I know that I have this fire in me and know that there is something out there right for me. After reading these comments I feel empowered to keep searching and learning more. THANK YOU. From Sydney, Australia.
Leyla, thanks so much for your words. I’m so glad the comments here have helped you; that’s awesome!!
Hi Leyla,
Thanks for sharing your story!
I too have the same problem, and have just discovered the HSP type. Your career history is also pretty similar to mine – I am unable to stay long in jobs and have been in business/communications for 7 years on and off. I am still not convinced that this is the right job/industry for me but it is hard to start fresh again from the ground up should I choose a new line of work. I am also trying to understand and learn more about myself more so that I can work in a job that I love.
Before I learnt about HSP, I thought I was a weirdo and have been very self critical. I hope you can update us on your journey, or if there might be anything that you did/will do along the way to get there.
Thank you so much for this great article. I’ve recently left my job in fashion and went back to my small hometown for a better life. I’m currently searching for a new job and having a lot of trouble. Many of you can relate to the pain of selling ourselves in a world full of sharks. Especially during interviews, it’s almost like you can feel everyone’s thoughts in the room. I’ve never thought of being my own boss but I like idea!
Hi,
i need help. I am a software engineer and was constantly demoralised by managers for 3 years. I was very bright but now i hate computers. I switched the company, but my performance has been going down because of lower back pain. Family is putting pressure to get married, but i can’t do that until I am sure i am financially stable. I don’t know what to do. I used to be so good at computers. I am also a drummer and had my rock band in college. I resort to music whenever I am feeling low. I had dream to start an internationally successful band, but parents didn’t allowed me. I am constantly mad fun at home and being tricked into corporate politics to accept low rating. I am unable to speak for myself. Also i don’t want to hurt anyone verbally, so I end up suffering.
I am 26 years old, DOB : 3rd november, 1990
Hi Hargovind, thank you for the message. I am sorry you are struggling. I recommend speaking to a trained mental health professional like a therapist. They can be incredibly helpful in sorting out these issues. It is good to have someone who can help! I hope you feel better!
I want to start my own business but Iām not exactly sure how to. Like I have read on the requirements but am not sure about how to get a spot. My idea is to open up a lounge. For late at night.
Hi everyone, what a great blog!
I too have been struggling in my stressful job as a PA in a media agency for 10 years! but i need the money to pay the mortgage, i have a husband and a 7 year old and i can’t just stop working, i need to earn a certain amount. But i am frazzled, my adrenals are fatigued, i’m constantly in fight or flight mode and got cortisol running through me. I commute on the train/tube an hour twice a day…i am not a happy bunny. i’ve also been fired from 3 jobs which made me feel so terrible about myself. i want to change my career but don’t know what to do as i need to earn a certain amount of money, i can’t go on like this but i also can’t not work. if any of you have any advice i would be really grateful. i feel totally trapped š
So true. But isn’t this true for everyone? wouldn’t anyone be better off working for themselves? I guess some people really like being in a busy office. when I worked for a start up a lot of people really seemed to think it was great and had been there a long time. I couldn’t tolerate the stress of being around all those people and left after 2 months.
I have had so many jobs that I could only tolerate for a few months or a week. the longest I was able to stay at a job was 2 years! I have had my own business freelancing as an illustrator and house cleaning. It is so much less stressful just working by myself. and I am starting a freelance writing and design business at the moment. It’s scary pitching to people to get jobs but much more tolerable than working at a job.
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Hi! My name is Ambuj! I am from India. I am an HSP. I am writing an eBook.My topic is spirituality. As highly sensitive people are deeply spiritual, my purpose or my calling is to spread the light of knowledge which IHi! My name is Ambuj! I am from India. I am an HSP. I am writing an eBook.My topic is spirituality. As highly sensitive people are deeply spiritual, my purpose or my calling is to spread the light of knowledge which I received from God after my spiritual awakening. I want to ask that is it possible that writing an eBook can generate reasonable income because I am unemployed and need to settle in life? received from God after my spiritual awakening. I want to ask that is it possible that writing an eBook can generate reasonable income because I am unemployed and need to settle in life?