Subscribe: Apple Podcasts | RSSOne glaring topic I have neglected to cover in this podcast and blog is extroverts. Approximately 30% of HSPs are extroverts! (btw, it can also be spelled extravert).
In this episode, I share tidbits I’ve learned from interviewing extroverted HSPs, including the challenges and differences of being the wonderful way they are.
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I’m an extroverted HSP and greatly related to the interview quotes. I am indeed on that tightrope, feeling drained by being alone, yet highly affected by the many connections I’m drawn to. I find balance with self-care, trying to bookend social gatherings with solitude.
Thank you for this podcast.
Thank you for the wonderful podcast and newsletters! I am actually both introvert and extravert and definitely an HSP. So I need lots of alone time but love meeting new people ( but ideally for short encounters). All your podcasts have resonated with me. It helps to know I am not alone or weird I’ve become much more accepting of myself thanks again Kelly!
Thank you for sharing Kat! I’m so happy it helps you!! 🙂
I think you should regularly have an extraverted HSP also being descried alongside issues for introverts, because we are 30% of the dang group.
Sorry I hit submit too fast. I just wanted to say that I am 50 years old, and have blamed others or myself my entire life for the drudgeries of my life—the perceived attacks and deep deep pain I have suffered emotionally and physically my entire life. I can’t even work anymore from a pain disorder, and it took meeting someone who also has HSP although she is introverted—She is and INFJ and I am an ENFJ. However, I have spent the past 5 years of my life alone and feeling although I have been rejected by everyone in my life and have been disabled. I was going to be a lawyer–and after I took the bar exam 10 times—almost passing several times, I had a mental meltdown. People had to tell me to stop, my wife left me and I was afraid to watch television—even Netflix if I didn’t know what it was, because if it ended badly I had panic attacks. I have just very recently found out that I am part of this club, and also the small club of the NFJ’s. There had to be a reason why most of my dearest friends and closest family members were introverts. I never could understand most of this as a teen, but still I could never quite hit the right handle of being “in.” The only place I ever felt exactly right was in law school, but that is a limited time, and cannot be extended or reassumed. I recently told my friend and dear mentor, and law school dean, that I am an HSP—she has said she has always known this about me, and that it is exciting, but can be very hard. I have to re-look at so much of my life now to understand what went wrong so much of the time. So I am going through a lot. It’s just a good thing my new lover is an HSP and a NFJ, and that she doesn’t mind it when I talk too much. LOL. I feel like I can just be me for the first time in my life.
This is amazing –> “I feel like I can just be me for the first time in my life.”
I feel like breathing a huge breath of fresh air for YOU as I read this sentence. I am excited for you and what the future holds.
I would like to think I am an introverted extrovert. I really appreciate this episode because I now fully connect to what it means to be a highly sensitive person.
This was great! I can relate to so much of it! I love and crave being around people. I even have fun when I’m there! Unfortunately, I leave and start thinking and thinking about everything I said and did and how people are thinking about me and thinking they don’t like me. I was actually diagnosed as having “social anxiety”. I’m not typically afraid of being in those situations at all…unless I’m in a “funk” that day. I may think too much about how I’ll feel afterwards and talk myself out of going, but that’s rare and a more recent problem that I’ve had. Thank you!
OMG This is the first time I have read anything about being HSP and also about being HSP and extroverted.. And for the first time I don’t feel so alone or weird or crazy or wrong or stupid..
I always knew I had a ‘thing’ that I was different from those around me. I am hugely sensitive, pathetically, outrageously sensitive to the world, to colour, emotions, people.. sound – when I was a kid I couldn’t go to the beach because the sound of the waves crashing used to freak me out, I’m also ultra sensitive to caffeine, and I can get absolutely overwhelmed by people, pressure, emotions. But I am also tough and funny and gregarious and take the lead socially and love to be around crowds.
Thanks so much for this blog and podcast. I don’t feel so alone. I have been recently consumed by self hatred and humiliation after a group holiday from hell which I organized in a flash of enthusiasm but which crumbled into my worst nightmare due to pressures of expectations from the group and overwhelm…
I always knew I was hyper sensitive but I thought I had to overcome it, now I am reading it is something to accept and maybe even celebrate.
thank you for the kind comment!
Introversion and extroversion are extremes on a continuum. I myself am roughly 50/50, so I can relate to both sides. I too am someone who needs social contact regularly – if not my mood goes down and I feel empty inside. But I also don’t enjoy big parties with lots of people and noise, and if I do go to one like that I usually need to take breaks and go home early to wind down before bed. My ideal situation is to spend time with a good friend or a small group every few days and do something relaxing or fun (just talk/drink tea, go hiking, go for dinner, see a film, go swimming etc). I find this balance between alone time very tricky to strike, but until now I wasn’t aware that this was a specific challenge for extroverted HSPs. So thank you for this episode, it helped me understand what is going on!
*balance between alone time and socializing
This is mind blowing. Thank you so much, Kelly!
I thought, without doubt, that I have been and I will ever be an introvert.
But, when I heard what extrovert HSPs describe their desire to be with people, it sounded a lot like my desire, too.
I feel strong desire to be with people.
I am totally energized, even “high”, after having good time with people (strangers, friends don’t matter), and I don’t feel like wanna go home.
I feel totally exhausted after certain occasions, and feel strong desire to be alone.
I came to realize that my self-description of being 100% introvert has been an unfair judgement to myself. I have this mechanism that interprets “my extroverted desires” into “some sort of responsibility to conform with social ideal/norm”. I thought that I felt like wanna meet with people because I HAVE TO avoid isolating myself from society.
But, now, I begin to realize, I feel like wanna meet with people simply because I WANT TO.
I think I’m picky. I need a right set of people to enable me enjoy the interaction.
And I believe that the right set must include reasonable amount of HSPs. That surely makes me comfortable and enriches that sense of belongings.
But, being picky doesn’t necessarily make me a 100% introvert.
I’m floating somewhere in the middle of introvert/extrovert barometer, and it moves depending on situation.
Best of all, I finally feel alright about myself being just this way!
Does anyone know of a podcast and or support group for the HSP Extrovert?