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Links from this episode:
- The Condolence Coach blog
- Condolence notes for the death of a pet: A Dog’s Tale
- Condolence notes for miscarriage or stillbirth: Soothing A Terrible Loss
Podcast music attribution: Bust This Bust That (Professor Kliq) / CC BY-NC-SA 3.0
This was a spot on episode and see how this can be applied to so many areas. As for me, when I don’t have the luxury to deal with the frustrating people through meditation and exercise (like in the middle of a busy day) I feel that I can be overwhelmed by thoughts. I am analyzing things people say to me, composing detailed responses, and sometimes yelling in my head. To not let these things overpower me, I keep an online diary/journal (in my Yahoo Notepad) where I can get thoughts out of my head. I have a place for interactions at work, with friends, at home etc. This way instead of dragging a comment or situation that occurred over the course of my day, I can literally unload it and neatly put it away – out of mind.
Martin–thank you for sharing this great way of dealing with it!! Write down your thought, let yourself think/worry about it for a moment, acknowledge it, and then let it go. so smart!
Not sure I agree completely.
Connecting to people is still what HSP want, and arguing is one way of doing that.
Like everything HSP do it’s the question of how much you know this person and how they will debate you.
Will it be a reasonable debate or a shouting match?
HSP need to assess the possibility of what they are getting into before they raise an objection.
Further still getting involved I feel is important. People can be persuaded otherwise. It’s perhaps rare, but not unheard of.
It matters because it’s important not to be casual with the truth. If nobody bothered to correct people then mistaken beliefs and falsehoods would spread. It’s not about always putting people in their place, but those who distort facts to support their twisted thinking.
Further still expressing your opinion is your right just as much as theirs. I regret not having expressed myself more. You might make enemies, but you are also more likely to make friends.
What’s important here is not self expressing. It’s the way we express ourselves. Avoiding extremes of never, or going full Hulk on someone. It’s finding that balance, the assertive middle ground.
We want meaningful connection to others, yet how can we get this if we don’t engage with those who have opinions and are willing the speak them.
I would encourage people to speak up, but before they do that they need to assess how much time and energy its worth.
With internet trolls, aggressive types, means spirited individuals, I wouldn’t bother as you suggested.
Regards Richard
Hi Richard, I think you are referring to episode 49. Thanks for sharing! It is definitely important to share your opinion, but as you said, measure if it’s worth the fight!