Maybe there aren’t any huge problems or stresses in your life, but still you feel cranky and annoyed by everything.
I find that these feelings come about when I’m overstimulated or have spent too much time in social situations, and I need a break.
It happened just yesterday. My husband Jim and I have been traveling for a while and we just arrived in a new city in a new country. We were walking around, exploring the city–which is one of our favorite activities.
But for some reason, there was a storm cloud above my head. Perhaps I had sensory overload. Perhaps the long day of travel mentally wore me out. I needed alone time. Time to just be quiet and still and do whatever I want.
Poor Jim. He could tell I was in a bad mood. Eventually, I acknowledged my crankiness. (Me: “I’m cranky.”) He knows me well enough to know that I can’t help feeling this way, and that I needed down time. Thank goodness for his understanding. I truly appreciate it.
What to do when you’re feeling overwhelmed?
If you ever feel the “storm cloud” above your head, try these things:
- Let yourself acknowledge your feelings. Don’t beat yourself up for being irrationally grumpy. You feel the way you feel and there’s no reason to be mad at yourself up about it. This is the key!
- Explain to your partner that overstimulation can make you cranky and that it’s not their fault. You just need some time in solitude.
- Eat–hunger can often contribute to grumpiness.
- Go home, or to a relaxing and quiet place, and get some alone time. Recharge that battery!