When you feel joy, discomfort, emotions, and empathy intensely
I’ve mentioned several times about how my husband Jim has tried to understand my high sensitivity.
At first, he didn’t buy into the idea at all. Slowly, over time, I could tell he was accepting it more. He was able to observe, realtime, my visceral reactions to things that I’d told him about re: HSP. [Read more…]
Have you ever said to yourself:
I’m tired of being hurt and let down by other people. How can I be less sensitive?
Maybe you feel like you give a lot to other people but they don’t return your thoughtfulness. You care so much, but others don’t notice. You can’t trust many people because they will inevitably hurt you or let you down. Your empathy weighs heavily on you. It’s all so tiring. How can you deal?
Here are some strategies that may help you cope.
At your wedding and reception, you’ll likely be the center of attention among lots of people for many hours, which can be tiring and overwhelming for introverts.
And wedding planning means literally hundreds and hundreds of decisions, which can lead to overwhelm for an HSP.
Decisions like: who to invite, invitations, a color scheme, the caterer, the menu, gift registry, music, the bouquet, centerpieces, photographer, videographer, bartender, bridesmaids & groomsmen, hotel reservations, travel arrangements, the cake, dress, rings, vows, shoes, hair, makeup, nails, rehearsal dinner, seating arrangements, toasts, thank you letters. And the honeymoon. [Read more…]
The other day, Jim & I were hanging out at our friends’ house, just chatting for hours. I enjoy that. It’s so much better than going to a bar to hang out. I’d rather be at someone’s house, where the environment is controlled and comfortable.
However, they had music playing in the background, so I had to put extra effort into hearing what anyone said. The music was the same volume level as our voices. [Read more…]
Anticipatory grief is a grief reaction that occurs before an impending loss, typically, the death of someone close to you. Anyone can experience it.
But for HSPs, anticipatory grief can be more than that. [Read more…]
When I was a young kid, I remember wondering why women on TV and in movies would make jokes about lying about their age or not wanting to admit their age. I thought it was so stupid; who cares how old you are? I completely, totally did not comprehend why it was a bad thing to admit your age as an adult woman.
Well, now that I’ve been on the wrong side of 30 for a while, I get it. For me, the age hesitation is not because I’m ashamed or don’t want people to know. It’s more like I personally can’t believe how old I am! How did this happen? When did I become old!? Also, I don’t want people to judge me or think of me differently once they know my age. [Read more…]
Us HSPs pick up on the emotions of others, including pain and sadness. It can stay with us and bother us more than others.
There are tons of examples I could talk about, but one popped into my head the other day. It was something I haven’t really thought about in over fifteen years, and it was interesting to examine it all over again in the lens of high sensitivity. [Read more…]
I grew up in Michigan then lived in New York, where winters are freezing and snowy and summers are hot and humid. Now I live in San Diego, in Southern California, which has arguably the best weather in the country. There aren’t discernible seasons: it’s nice year-round, with little rain and temperatures that never approach freezing. [Read more…]
About ten years ago, I read a book that I think about more than any other I’ve read.
It was The Unbearable Lightness of Being by Milan Kundera-a popular book to read in your college years.
Oddly enough, I’ve only read it once. It’s not the kind of book you can simply breeze through. (Also-there is a movie made from the book; I have not seen it and have no idea if it’s good.)
Now, a more-knowledgable person on Kundera and his works could write a more intelligent analysis, but this is why this book speaks to me: [Read more…]
Simply learning about what it means to be an HSP can change the way you see yourself and your place within the world.
