How to Travel the World Long-Term When You’re Highly Sensitive

Are you easily overwhelmed by noise, crowds, bright lights, and bad smells? Are you jumpy and tend to worry a lot? If you are like me, and are biologically wired to be sensitive to your environment, then little things may tend to bother you more than the “average” person. Basically, I sweat the small stuff. […]

The right to silence trumps the right to noise

I remember the time when I heard someone playing music in their cubicle. It was several cubes away, but I could still faintly hear it. I worked in a cube farm, as it is so affectionately called. Dozens and dozens of cubicles all next to each other in a giant room. I remember sitting there, […]

Feeling the Physical Pain of Others

Today, my husband Jim was in a motorbike accident. I think that if you ride a scooter long enough in Thailand, you will get in an accident. I was working in a cafe when Jim showed up and sat at my table. I was wasn’t expecting him, since he was out getting info on train […]

Decision-Free Living

Decision-free living. Did that phrase give you goosebumps? It did for me. Do you realize how much of your energy and power that decision-making takes from you over the course of a day? Let’s look at how HSPs approach decision making. We thoroughly examine (and sometimes research) every aspect of a decision’s outcomes. This careful […]

Black Friday…

Find a Work-Around for Your Fear

Amy over at Nomadtopia is spending a few weeks in Bali and has discovered lots of menacing stray dogs hanging out near her apartment. She found herself feeling fearful and stressed about having to walk by and encounter these scary canines. Her anxiety would rise before even leaving her apartment! So she did what a […]

How do you explain to your partner that simply being around people takes energy?

I saw something worth sharing on the Introvert subreddit on Reddit today. Someone asked how to explain being an introvert to her boyfriend. She didn’t know how to get him to understand that she needed alone time, and that he shouldn’t take it personally. The reply of what she should say to him is in […]

The Importance of Caring Less at Your Office Job

Years ago, when I moved from my small hometown in Michigan to New York, I took administrative temp work to try to get my “foot in the door” and get a full-time job. At one of my temp assignments, I was miserable. The person managing me would hurl insults at one of the other employees. The job-stuffing […]

I Tear Up at Performance Reviews at Work

I’ve never admitted this to anyone before, but every time I’ve had a performance review at work, my eyes fill with tears. Hold up. You are probably thinking it’s due to nerves or fear. But I don’t think that’s it. When you step into your boss’s office and close the door for a review, the […]

Don’t Stand Over Me While I’m Working

HSPs generally perform poorly when being watched, and yeah, I can totally confirm this. One of my old bosses would sometimes stand right over me and watch me while I did things on the computer. It was so insufferable that I called him out on it. I probably said something sarcastic like, “Are you really […]