Apologies to the extroverted HSPs out there, because today I have a little sumthin’ for the innies. This is a special guest post by Sarah Jones of Introverted Alpha. Sarah focuses specifically on helping introverted men become successful with women in a way that is respectful, insightful, and genuine to both parties. One of the things that makes her successful is how well she understands the nature of introverts. Here’s Sarah with 5 reasons dating is challenging for introverts:
5 Reasons Dating is Challenging for Introverts (& What To Do About It)
June 18, 2015 by Leave a Comment
High sensitivity isn’t a problem that needs to be fixed
May 31, 2015 by 7 Comments
“If you suffer from HSP…”
I saw this in a tweet the other day.
It made me wince.
HSP is not something you suffer from.
That’s like saying you “suffer” from being left-handed.
It’s not something that needs to be cured or fixed. It’s not something to be pitied. [Read more…]
The difference Between Introverts and Highly Sensitive People?
April 23, 2014 by 7 Comments
Introversion and high sensitivity often get lumped together. It’s estimated that 70% of HSPs are introverts (source), so I can see how it is easy to get them confused. If you aren’t sure of the difference, hopefully this post will help make things a bit clearer.
Introversion in a nutshell
Introversion is all about energy. When introverts are around people, they expend energy. Extroverts, on the other hand, gain energy from being around people. That doesn’t mean introverts dislike social settings-just that it takes energy from them, and they will likely need to limit their social time or seek recuperation later on. [Read more…]
How do you explain to your partner that simply being around people takes energy?
November 25, 2013 by 2 Comments
I saw something worth sharing on the Introvert subreddit on Reddit today.
Someone asked how to explain being an introvert to her boyfriend. She didn’t know how to get him to understand that she needed alone time, and that he shouldn’t take it personally.
The reply of what she should say to him is in the head graphic here.
This is so on-point! There are times when my husband and I are in the same room but we are doing different things-maybe I’m using the computer and he’s watching TV. I shouldn’t be thinking about his feelings, but I can’t help it. I’m wondering if he’s hungry or if he’s going to want to go out later, or things like that.
The only time I’m free from having to think about someone else is when I’m completely alone.
Why I’d rather just sit and listen
September 20, 2013 by 14 Comments
why can’t we all just get along
“I don’t know what to talk to people about. I’m okay with just sitting there and listening to others. Then if I try to interject, people shut me out, like I don’t exist (depending on the people.) So, It’s best to just sit quietly.”
I got this paragraph in an email from an acquaintance recently and I totally understood where she was coming from. [Read more…]
Emma Watson has an Introvert Revelation
August 14, 2013 by Leave a Comment
This recent quote I read from Emma Watson makes me like her a whole lot.
“Have you seen Quiet by Susan Cain? … It discusses how [extroverts] in our society are bigged up so much, and if you’re anything other than an [extrovert] you’re made to think there’s something wrong with you. That’s like the story of my life. Coming to realize that about myself was very empowering, because I had felt like Oh my god, there must be something wrong with me, because I don’t want to go out and do what all my friends want to do.” source
Thank you, Emma, for this!
Reading Quiet changed my life, too. I had to exact same revelation-there is NOT something wrong with me for being the way I am. The same goes for being an HSP. You are normal, just a different kind of “normal”! It’s the definition of “normal” that’s wrong.
